It's a strange feeling to come home and there's no Alfie meowing and waiting impatiently for me by the gate. The neighbor's cat appears to have noticed Alfie's absence and has started to jump over and explore and he's an affectionate little fella and also looks like a fat grey loaf. Still missing Alfie but it's been slightly comforting to have an animal presence close by 💔.
This quote is from Pema Chodron’s book ‘Living Beautifully with Uncertainty and Change.’ It speaks to the Buddhist principle of impermanence, or ‘annica.’ You don’t need to practice Buddhism to recognise the freedom that comes from accepting change as the nature of our world, rather than struggling against it. It’s not easy, but focusing on living presently without yearning for the past or worrying about the future is something that we can all benefit from. Our only guarantee is the moment we currently exist in; regardless of whether it’s blissful or torment, it’s still only a moment in time.
Why? For what purpose does it serve? What is the reason in which these reside inside where the lies roam around with all the nerve? Who is the father of these things that cost all but the bones in our hands adorned by golden rings? For who we are is left but a husk piloted by our own emissions. Guided by the blind man lost on his mission to needlessly produce, consume, use, lose until nothing remains but a box of remains. One is led by chemical affection with nothing but a loss of direction caused by the infection of the inevitable end-collection. There is no motive but ones in our head. We make our own stories ways and deeds. We make what we are until we have nothing left the bleed, nothing left to complete. And maybe this is meaningful, only until the founder that holds our lives has been pressed, selected, and..... delete. #art #abstractart #poem #poet #amateurpoem #amateurpoet #amateurpoetry #emotion #death #color #futility #hope #loss #chemical #love #uncertainty #confusion #philosophy #thoughts #think
PS: I will be reposting my old art and poetry from my personal here soon. Thank you!
🌸 B E S T I N T E N T I O N S 🌸 “Let me know if you need anything” 🌸 Probably one of the best intentioned statements made. We’ve all said it, fully meaning to spring into action the moment our person identifies something they need. 🌸 I’ve added it at the end of texts and emails, after pouring out condolences or checking in on loved ones. 🌸 I’d say it especially if I couldn’t think of something specific to do to help. But wanted to impart my desire to show up. To convey my helplessness, in their time of need. 🌸 However, saying this to a loss mama in her grief, places the burden of responsibility back on her. 🌸 “Let me know if I can do anything” creates a responsibility for the person to make a decision- which they probably don’t know the answer to. In the midst of grief, we barely know what we need. 🌸 What every loss mama needs is: warmth, food, nourishment, non judgement, safety. And most probably, someone else to show up with a kind word/coffee/meal. Instead of trying to decide what to reply to a pretty difficult question, in her grief. 🌸 If you can’t show up, send a message. Just please think through your words. I’ve started messaging on those special days/milestones with a simple “I’m thinking of you and your baby. I hold you both so dear in my heart”. 🌸 Don’t ask. Don’t create another question mark. Just show up with something she might need to survive, or take care of herself. 🌸